Tuesday, March 9, 2010

JaMonkey's Birth Story

 Didn't have this on here so I pulled it from my Cafemom Journal to share! I apologize for the grammar it's an old post and I'll try to edit as I go.

November 18th. I had two or three really intense contractions but they stopped. All last week I had a feeling that Monday would be the day. Well i was some what right. The next morning around 6:45am Mark was leaving for work when my contractions started again. I didn't start timing them because I didn't want to get my hopes up. After about an hour and a half I called my husband and told him I was having regular contractions...he was already on his way home because he knew I had one before he left for work. They started getting closer together but I wasn't going to start heading to the hospital until they were 8 minutes apart because we live so far from the hospital (these were my midwifes orders).

After we made our way to Roswell I stopped by my doctors office and got checked. I was only 3 cm dilated. She said to go to the park and walk around for a few hours and then go to the hospital. About 3 and half hours of hanging around the park and what not I went to the hospital. They didn't have any rooms available so they stuck me in an over flow room. The nurse checked me and said I was only 4 cm.

Very sad!

By this point it had been 12 hours. They gave me the choice if I wanted to check in I could or I could leave and come back later. I decided to stay only because I wanted to get in a hot shower to help ease the pain. They brought me to a post pardum room and said that this could be my room after labor too. So we moved in! I got comfortable and they monitored the heart rate and what not for a little bit.

My midwife arrived and started looking for a room for me to labor in. While she was waiting she knitted me a pair of booties it was so cute! I finally got a room and moved into it and tried another shower. I had originally planned on having a water-birth but both of the rooms that had the tubes were still being used. This one had a smaller tub that I could use but I had to wait till my water broke to find out if I could. It took forever to get to 9 cm. By then my water still hadn't broke! I had a bulging bag of water but it just didn't want to break! My midwife asked if I wanted to break it and all I said was "will it speed things along?" Yes "then break that bad boy!" I had merconium in my water so I couldn't have the baby in the water because they have to suction her asap as she comes out.

I really started going fast then. I was so exhausted at this point that I was falling asleep between contractions which wasn't much time some were 3 minutes apart some were 45 seconds apart. I almost had to be put on an IV because I was getting dehydrated. I started forcing myself to drink more water even though I was gagging every so many contractions.

I was almost to 10cm but one side of my cervix was being stubborn. I flipped sides and in a few contraction she started to make her way down. I was begging to push to help get her down faster. After my midwife informed me that I wasn't ready because I hadn't said the "F" word yet I labored a little longer. After screaming the "F" word I could here her at the nurses station going "She's ready!" My midwife gave me the ok and my body just slowed down it seemed. My contractions were giving me more of a break and when they came I began to push. I was still really out of it because I had been awake so long that my pushing wasn't really the right way. So I started yelling at myself in my mind to focus and concentrate and I bared down.

After 1 intense push her head was crowning. I had just been at +1 so my midwife still thought I had a lot of pushing left. The only person that was in the room were the RN on duty and my midwife plus my husband of course. My midwife only had one glove on and she realized that she was coming right then! The RN threw my husband my leg and ran to get a glove for her other hand. She screamed for the team I was still pushing through all of this and her head came out. My midwife made me stop pushing because no one was in there to help. STOP YEAH RIGHT!!! They started to suction her mouth so there wasn't any merconium and I got the urge to push more. So I did! She came flying out of me at 6:01am with only my midwife to catch her. she was thrown on my stomach which was still in my own night gown because they forgot to change me.

As the team was coming in they waited for the cord to stop pulsing and Mark cut it. As she was laying on me I couldn't believe how fast she just came out from pushing so I was in complete shock. I couldn't believe that I did it. Drug free, needle free and no interventions what so ever. It was so empowering. They took her away and started to clean her up and she began to cry. As they were cleaning her Mark went to touch and talk to her and take pictures.

While he did that, I birthed the placenta...which isn't a good feeling I might add. Having something slowly sliding out of me! Yuck! Since they weren't ready for her to come flying out of me I made quite a mess on the bed. They had to change it really fast and give me a gown. So I had to stand up and that was almost impossible. My midwife held me in her arms and dressed me as the bed was being made.

They brought me my crying daughter and instantly as she reached me she stopped crying. She stopped for my husband too but she was in there for a while because of the mess so she had started again. The flood of OMG I did this...we did this came over me and my husband and I just stared at her and cried. Everyone left and I didn't even notice. I forgot about the last 24hours and was completely delirious from the lack of sleep and the fact that she was finally here! I was the happiest woman in the world at the moment.

Unfortunately no one filled me in on the fact that I was going to be gushing blood afterwards. Those are things that people should tell you so you don't freak out! My midwife was in such shock because not only did I push her out in one push I didn't tear anything. She said I was super woman! Which I had said to her and my husband once during my transition phase!

I'm so happy that she is here. My world seems so much more complete! 24 hours of labor and I don't really remember much of it because after they put her in my arms everything went flying out the window. All the pain and the shakes and wanting to throw up, gone when she hit my arms all bundled up.

So far I'm making a great recovery. My husband has been home with me and making me meals and cleaning. He is awesome. We fight about who can hold her now.

Well I need to go because I have a rooting child that plans to tear my nipple off if she doesn't get fed soon.

Thanks ladies for all the support and kind words.

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Busy, Busy...OMG

So the last few days have been crazy busy! Working, packing, worrying...Yes I said worrying. Ok to be totally honest I've been FREAKING out to say the least. As much as I need and deserve (whether my husband thinks so or not) I'm getting nervous. This is the longest I've been away from my family. JaMonkey has spent the night with our parents but this is 4 days and 3 nights away from my sweet girl. I honestly am so upset about it. Not to mention I no longer have a computer so I have to beg to be able to video chat with them while I'm gone.

All day today I've felt like I'm going to throw up because I'm so on edge about leaving tomorrow. As in break down panic attack at any moment. I'm going to stinkin' Vegas and I'm freaking out...what a loon. Running around picking things up, depositing money. Making sure my head is still attached to my body.

Ok...deep breath.

Well on the upside I've won tickets from Field Trips with Sue to go see Laughing Pizza the day after I get back. JaMonkey loves them! They are a a family band that plays songs in between shows on GPTV. JaMonkey is always cheering and dancing to their songs so I'm so thrilled to go see them with her. It will be a nice "Mommy's back home" party for us. Maybe I'll be able to drag my husband along with me too and make a good family outing. We haven't really done much as a family. it's either me and her or him and her never all of us. That will change though now that the warm weather is here and she is old enough to enjoy things like this and the Zoo, Museum, or Aquarium.



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Monday, March 8, 2010

Glad I Switched

On the way to pick up JaMonkey there were two cars stopped in the road. As we all started to drive around them I noticed it was the same car I used to have. A Ford Focus. The car had rear ended a SUV. Let's just say the SUV had a bump in and this was the Focus.



Glad I switched to an SUV, this one happens to be the same size as mine.

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Thought process for the day

I don't even know where to begin with this post. I'm mind has been more than cluttered with things I want to say and can't find the proper words to say them. I've been dealing with some rough times lately and without spilling my guts to whoever actually reads this blog and probably scaring them away I'll pick a few things. Starting with the way I've chosen to live my life.

Without much of a filter, it would seem. I'll pretty much talk to whoever will listen so I'm not over processing and thinking too much about it. Here lately that thought process has been challenged. Maybe challenging is a better fit. I was recently faced with an issue I never really had to deal with before. Something that defines me as a person and my personality. Being a strong believer in wanting to make a change in the community and society that we live in. I think we as a nation can be very close minded, and scared of change. All I want to do is change it! Some of these things being, religion, sexual preference, and my main one just sex in general. I feel like as a society we shut down when it's talked about, like it's a dirty awful thing to bring up. When in reality it's a natural thing for we as human beings to engage in. I'm not asking you to tell me about your sex life, that I realize is a personal choice between you and your partner. I just want to be here to educate you and enlighten you about the many things surrounding sex and how it can lead to another level of your relationship you may not have ever known.

I'm not claiming to be an expert, I'm simply passing on the knowledge that I have learned. Simple, right? Apparently not. I could have posted this on my Sexual Health blog, but my readers over there already know this. That's why they read it. I love what I do as a Pure Romance consultant, I am in no way ashamed of it. My family knows all about it and to the best of my knowledge support me in my endeavors. My original goal out of high school was to study alternative forms of psychology, with a concentration in sexual therapy. That doesn't make me a perv, it makes me another person trying to help you make happy, healthy choices that are right for you.

Being told that what I do could in some way harm my or someone else's "career", which mind you I'm doing data entry and filing right now, was a punch in the gut. I was blindsided because I go about my business unfiltered day to day. Threw me for one hell of a loop. I blog, tweet, facebook my feelings and thoughts all the time never once thinking about the consciences. Mainly because I've always said "If you don't like what I write, don't read it!" I think that's a valid statement to make. I think I need to work on this "filter" but tweek it to my liking.

Call me an idealist, or an optimist but I don't think it's childish to stand up for something you believe in. And choosing to stand by it even though someone disagrees with you. If we conform to the "standard" we will never win our battles. Mine isn't a huge battle, but I know I'm not alone. Every consultant does it for their own reason but they all stand for one. Education.

Do you think the gay community is going to stop trying to gain rights now? No way!

Just a thought process for the day...one of many. This one plays onto the next, stay tuned.



JaMommy

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Wordless Wednesday













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Monday, March 1, 2010

Not Me Monday - Girl time


I'm not having an awesome giveaway for a $40 Pure Romance Gift Certificate along with 25% off to all entries! You can enter right here on my blog!

I didn't stay up until 1am this morning writing about my hubs and mines "wedding" story at the same time as my besties was writing her blog post about her hubs and their wedding! Weird right...totally the same wave length! Well mine was more about my wedding ring, but I included our back story.

I didn't buy my own wedding ring, then when it arrived tell my husband that it was bad enough I had to buy my own wedding ring so he better propose to me and make it the best memory ever! Might I add he nearly lost it too.

I didn't swear up and down on Twitter that I WILL see Avatar this weekend and then never find enough time to go. No not me!

I didn't eat WAY too much food at my Tastefully Simple party (which you can still order from online and at check out search Meghan Cooper as your host.) and then pack it up and bring it up to my Mom's house where we had a munchie fest girls night. Laughing, crying and opening uo to one another more than we ever had before. Watching Desperate Housewives in her fort!

And I certainly don't want to be at work right now...and that's a true NOT ME!!!!!



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Is it Bad JuJu?

So a little back story on me and my husband if you haven't read my about me section. We met at a concert that a girlfriend dragged me to. Long story short, we feel hard and fast. Conversations of "future" plans came up and one thing was the same.

A child.

I was pregnant, 4 months after we met.

Crazy right?

We knew what we wanted and we went for it. Yes I was 20 at the time and I planned my child. Especially fertile too apparently because it only took the first month.

While I was pregnant with JaMonkey my teeth really started hurting because she was sucking the calcium out of my teeth. So I needed to get dental insurance asap.

Jumping the gun we decided we would tie the knot early to get me on his dental plan. We didn't tell anyone. We drove to the courthouse and ghetto style tied the knot. He was still in his work clothes. Truly romantic...not! We made a promise though that we would have a wedding later when our daughter could be apart of it. I thought it would be super special to have her walk with me.

Unfortunatly I couldn't contain myself and my identity was stolen the same month so I went ahead and changed my name. Needless to say our parents weren't thrilled about the whole situation but have no worries mother I will have my wedding one day. I already know where we are having it!

Ok back to the point of this story.

UNISEX Titanium "Celtic Knot" Wedding band or Promise ring ~ Sz 12Our first year anniversary I bought Hubs his wedding ring. Actually I was so excited about getting it I gave it to him early. I honestly didn't think he would wear it because he's never worn rings before. But he now feels naked without it.

So here comes my whine. I still don't have a wedding ring...well kinda.

I was holding out hope for a specific ring. It's a gorgeous three stone blue diamond ring with white diamonds circling the blue ones. It was really nice. But it was on the expensive side. Expensive in that we live paycheck to paycheck and have LOTS of trouble saving money.

So I gave up hope that my husband was going to buy me a ring and I bought one myself. I found a very nice Celtic ring to somewhat match each other.

When I ordered the ring I was really excited. I was finally going to have something to show that I am a married woman! Then I got an email the next day.

Sorry to inform you but this ring is sold out and won't be available until the middle of Febuary (this was back in January). We can send it to you in a (much) smaller size in green.

I replied, "This is going to be my wedding ring so I will wait until the new ones come in."

Wow is that a sign? Am I ever going to get to wear a ring?

So I waited. It's been two and a half years, what's another month.

Well the ring came this past Friday!

Isn't it pretty? It's a Moonstone with two celtic knots on the side.

But I didn't get to wear it long. I decided that since I bought my own wedding ring, the least my husband could do was ask me to marry him. I don't mean I hand it to him and he gets on one knee right then and there...which he did by the way. I told him to stand up take the ring and put some thought into it. He owed me that.

I asked him today to see the ring so I could take these pictures for the blog and sure enough, he couldn't find it. I was sick to my stomach instantly. I thought he lost my ring the same weekend I gave it to him, but he had actually brought it into the house for safe keeping. *Few*

But my mother sent me some great information about moonstones that stood out to me and I thought were worth sharing.

Moonstone is a 3rd Anniversary gemstone. Our 3rd anniversary is this year, May 29th.

A stone for “new beginnings”, Moonstone is a stone of inner growth and strength. It soothes emotional instability and stress, and stabilises the emotions, providing calmness. Moonstone enhances intuition, promotes inspiration, success and good fortune in love and business matters.


Moonstone aids the digestive system, assimilates nutrients, eliminates toxins and fluid retention, and alleviates degenerative conditions of skin, hair, eyes, and fleshy organs such as the liver and pancreas. It stimulates the pineal gland and balances hormonal cycles, being excellent for PMS, conception, pregnancy, childbirth, and breast-feeding. Moonstone is also beneficial to men in opening the emotional self.
Moonstone Healing Properties

•Happiness
•Good fortune
•Nurturing
•Mothering
•Unselfishness
•Humanitarian
•Love
•Hope

•Spiritual insight
•Easy childbirth
•Safe travel
•New beginnings
•Abundance
•Ancient wisdom

Here is too new beginnings, with lots of positive outcome and no more bad JuJu. When I get the ring back that is.
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